I woke up this morning so blessed to be alive. I have my wonderful family and my delicious cup of coffee that seems to always have too much hazelnut creme. I woke up with excitement because I can't wait to tell you the rest of the story of how "I faced the rod from hell." I hope this doesn't sound cliche, but if you really understand how precious life really is and how each one of us was creatively and wonderfully made by God...then you really would know how beautiful the roses smell. Only humans were given inner power of Instincts to save a life and the power to tell lies that sometimes kill. So let me tell you what I mean:
If you remember in Part I of "Instincts and Lies," I left off with my daughter and I being trapped inside the car with a very pregnant woman shouting profanity, beating the car door and window with the rod that Moses parted the Dead Sea with. She was trying desperately to rip me and my daughter's head off right? Well, girly there was no way out of this car...My daughter was sitting in my lap and we were literally trapped. She(pregnant female) was doing what women naturally do...they blame the other woman, not their cheating man! At the same time, she is trying to open the car door to get to me, I'm trying to hold the door handle so that she could not harm a strand of hair or skin on my daughter's frightened body. Also with this lunatic trying to hurt me, the only thing I can thing about now is my daughter. My motherly instincts kicked into red alert and it was going to be dual to the last one standing. I forgot about the "law" at this point, and how the prosecutor was going to paint me as this malicious jealous female. I forgot about how the Ledger Enquirer newspaper was going to headline the story, "Woman kills unborn child over a Man." I forgot about my life and how it would change. I forgot about my parents, sisters, brothers, aunts and uncles and how much they loved me. Knowing that she did not care about my child...I did not care about the one she was carrying...forgive me girl, but at the time..it was true because she didn't care about mine. The only thing I knew for sure that I was going to protect what was mine(my daughter). I forgot about everything else.
I know my life would have changed if this woman had opened the car door or broke the window. My daughter could have been badly injured or worse. I could have been facing 30 years to life for murder in the first or second degree. I'm sorry if I have offended you in telling this story but this is what could have happened. I felt that I had to let you know where my mind was at the time and how I was feeling because this all happened because of lies someone told. Innocent people could have gotten killed because of someone selfish greed, infidelity, lies and deceit.
Do you want to know what John was doing at this point? Looking like a FOOL and this liar that I didn't know made me look like one too! He was denying that he knew this crazy woman. But, I knew better - I knew he was a liar. Girl, I couldn't believe I went against my instinct. Girlfriend, I was madder than mad - I called him some everything I could think of but the child of God, I had too!
You know when things are happening to you..they seem like it goes on forever, but this incident all took place within a matter of minutes and was over in a matter of minutes. The police finally came and thank God somebody called. Now, I have to remind you this was waaaaaaaaay before cell phones were invented! When the police arrived they cleared away the traffic build up and on lookers. Meanwhile, the pregnant female was still irate, sweating, mad and saying this was her husband and that he was in the car with another woman, she said. The policeman ask John was this woman his wife and he still lied, denying that he knew this woman who was approximately 9 months pregnant. I knew if he sat there and denied his wife and his unborn child, what he would do to me! I could not believe that I put myself and my precious daughter in the hands of an unsafe person...I just couldn't believe it! I couldn't believe how he could still go on with this lie. I knew he was a pathological liar. The policeman asked me who I was and I told him that this was my first time with this man. I demanded John to take us home. In the meantime, the police held John's wife at bay so that she would not pursue the vehicle.
Girlfriend, seeing the frightened look on my daughter's face and what I had put her through, I had some choice words for John, and I quote, "AS LONG AS YOU @!*%(POOP) BETWEEN TWO SHOES, YOU ARE NEVER TO LOOK AT ME AGAIN, YOU BETTER NOT CALL ME NOR SAY MY NAME ...EVER AS LONG AS YOU LIVE! YOU ARE A DANGER TO SOCIETY! After this girly, It was like I had a restraining order against him because I didn't see him around anymore. Now that I look back on it I could have been the first Anita Hill or the first to sue a married man.
Let me tell you my mistakes: (1) I should not have taken my daughter along because I "didn't know this man in the first place and my instincts were against him in the beginning. By doing this I put my daughter's life at risk. Had he been a predator - and in a way he was..he got both of us. (2) I should have never talked myself or allowed someone else to talk against my God given "instincts."
I've seen John's wife over the years, at one time we were going to the same hair dresser. I knew she remembered my face like I remembered hers, but we never spoke nor did we have any harsh looks or words. As the years passed, I had a burning desire to comfront this woman and tell her the truth...and that someday came. It's something about being in your 40's ...you don't hold things in anymore. So, one day, I got the chance to approach her and she was cordial..let me remind you this was twenty years later. I got a chance to tell my side of the story and of course, she remembered the incident. And of course, she said, what most women who decides to stay with their cheating man would say, "he didn't go anywhere," he's still with me. You know as women, we have to throw in the one-two punch! That was okay with me because I just wanted her to know that he lied and said that he was not married. Humm..I thought to myself, "girl you look like you have had some miserable times being married to that dweeb." And after I got this off of my chest, I felt great and crossed this off of my life to do list.
The End
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